Last week, Oprah did a show on dating over 35. (Apparently no matter what city you live in, women over 35 swear there are no men available to date and mate.) An interesting point in the show occurred when the male dating expert suggested that when women leave the house, they should be “done” every time. That’s right, he said every, single time. (His logic is that men are visual creatures and right or wrong, men care about looks.) Most women would consider this guy crazy and a little bit unrealistic. Personally, I think he has a valid point.
Let me clarify something. I don’t think you need to look like you’re getting ready to hit the red carpet. But throwing on a pair of baggy sweatpants and a hoodie can’t possibly send the message, “Hey, I’m cute, smart, and fun. Ask me out.” How much trouble is it to put on a nice-fitting pair of jeans and a decent shirt?
The way I see it, whenever you leave the house you represent yourself. And you’re showing the world what you think about yourself when you schlep in and out of Target. Or worse, work!
So, how do you look when you leave the house? Would you be fine if you met your next potential business partner or great love? Maybe you really don’t care. But remember this, it takes just as much time to put on something ugly as it does to put on something cute.