I originally wrote about "style-esteem" last March. And after watching a couple of Oprah shows recently, I was compelled to resurrect the topic today.
When I meet people and tell them that I'm a wardrobe coach, I usually disclose my philosophy that I believe people show you how they feel about themselves by the way they leave the house each day. And I've had plenty of people tell me that while that may be true for others, my logic doesn't really apply to them. Oh, really? Let me tell you why I disagree with that notion.
When you love yourself, you take care of yourself and you take care to present yourself as a clean, well-dressed individual. You look good, which leads to you feeling even better. Conversely, when you throw on stained khaki pants and a shirt that's too small, you don't jump up and volunteer to pitch to the vice president of your department. You sink down in the chair and hope that your manager doesn't realize you forgot to put on deodorant today. This presentation of yourself is your style-esteem.
We all know what self-esteem is, right? Dictionary.com defines it as, a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself. Basically, self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. So what the heck is style-esteem, you may be asking? It’s a phrase I coined to describe how you display your self-esteem through the way you present yourself to the world.
We all have style-esteem whether you call it that or not. When I initially thought of this concept, I was thinking about how you dress and if you carried yourself as a well-groomed person. But the more I think about it, your style-esteem can be shown by the way you keep your home or your car. Do you hid behind a messy house or wardrobe because deep down you’re a mess? Is it easier to say that you don’t care about what other people think because you’re really afraid of what you think about yourself?
I make this point from the stance of self-reflection and not one of judgment. Whenever I watch What Not to Wear, I’m always nodding in confirmation when the person being made over is brought to tears because their new look makes them feel better about themselves. Taking time to care about your appearance is not wasted time. It’s time well spent on YOU. And if you don’t feel comfortable with that, your esteem, however you describe it, can use a makeover.
So, what's your style-esteem? I'd love to hear your thoughts!